Just Thinking Out Loud: #LIFEGOALS

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What are your #LIFEGOALS …

Writing today, from another perspective of my life.

Many of us are over forty. Yes. In this world there are many folks over forty, especially in my following of friends, associates and bloggers. We are either at the peak of our life goals cycle or working on getting there. We have so many experiences we’re either jaded cynics or filled with more hopes and possibilities of a life filled with failures and truths. While age is just a number, experiences tell the story of time spent.

Last night as I lay in my bed trying to touch every point of its emptiness, life and goals decided to take up residence in some open spaces! I don’t feel lonely in my bed, but I feel alone in my home. The home was a goal fulfilled, and the bed well that’s a discussion for another post! As I normally do when I lay down to sleep I think of my children and my choices. I pray for the blessing of their continued lives and safety, and I thank God for them.

One of the biggest goals in my life was for my children to grow up to be adults and to be around to see this. That was a life goal fulfilled, and I gave them the best opportunities and life I could as a parent. I don’t measure my accomplishments based on what odds were stacked against me. Life as a single parent was just another day in the choices I made – not a status to be used as an excuse or a celebration, simply a choice.

When you stand at the crossroads for your own #LIFEGOALS  it really is all about you. Your goals are all you. I wanted to be an entrepreneur – done it, and ongoing. I wanted to be heavily involved in branding and international trade – done it, hoping for ongoing. I wanted to help revive a failing company, done it. I wanted to create markets for what appeared impossible, done it. I really wanted to be exposed to the impossible and get a shot at making a positive improving difference, and I sure got what I wanted. I desired to help others, and its ongoing. I desired to help non-profits gain financial and other support, and that too is ongoing. My list goes on and on with the things accomplished. The things not accomplished is another list that matters but I’m realizing the burning passion to get them done does not burn as intensely.

So yes, what are my life goals now which will fill me with an intense desire for accomplishment? I’m working on this. At the next junction of my life there must be something which will help to qualify my obsession, the daily blessing called ‘my life’.  We all measure ourselves at sometime. My harshest critic is myself. I sometimes wonder if I’ve set my self actualization bar soo high, its unattainable. Unrealistic expectations can be a source of frustration and eventually hold us back from real opportunities. There must be realism when planning for our needs, or the bubble of fictitious hope will pop, leaving disillusionment and broken self-esteem.

Our careers and professional lives do tend to be a priority, based on our economic needs and wants. Everything else comes second or third priorities, and before you know it life ends. In my own life my career became a priority early on and now while its still important there is a subtle shift as the children are leaving the nest. Its almost empty.  My spiritual, health, and social needs are surfacing more. My sense of civic duty and humanity are all bigger priorities which compete for goal status in the planning process. Thus my question to me and you is one based on the present – When you think about your #LIFEGOALS does it reflect what you want and desire, or what will please others?

I’m just thinking out loud, and grateful to share with my world during my life! If this resonates with you, please let me know, share , and encourage others to consider #LIFEGOALS

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Love Choices, and mushy movies

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Thoughts on a rainy Saturday

I like to watch mushy romantic movies. They remind me of dreamy years, almost certainly eons ago. Most of these movies have a happy ever after ending, and they remind me that we choose our happiness path. So here are my thoughts on romantic love – it really is possible. I have seen many live stories and read many tales of forever after. I have even sat on the sidelines encouraging my friends in their love relationships. Looking in I am happy that love exists.

Stop asking – why are you single?

The love I know of did not last. I did not feel less than I should, because I was not the dream. The one you wish to wake up with in the morning, or the last person you want to see at night can be a fairytale or nightmare. The one to be loved and cherished, was not me. Does it make me less of a romantic or less real because I have spent most of my life chasing moonbeams while walking on the sands? Maybe I am the person with so much love to give, it’s too much  be received? Maybe, all the maybes are the consolation prizes for choices. Whatever the reason, I still believe that love, the passionate type exists for many, and is not there for everyone. Therefore, the stories of love, and movies which make us cry are a way to shed the emotions not used. It is indeed a happy time, when we can see our solitude and accomplishments, not in what we do not have , but in what we have right now.

My favorite romance song is ‘Lady in red’, and that’s followed by ‘Tonight’ by John Legend. When it comes to movies, ‘Think like a man’ from Steve Harvey’s book,  gives me goosebumps and brings on my water -works every time. Then there is Queen Latifa and Common in ‘Just Wright’ a 2010 movie, and I do enjoy the scene when the guy realizes he made a mistake! These Cinderella movies do help to keep one from being jaded. They share good times , bad times and some compromising times. For me these movies cause my heart to be filled with emotions even though I know the ending!

So what are your love choices… just think about them, and watch a movie. Sometimes we need a break from reality and a moment to appreciate our choices. Sometimes the blessing of your singleness should be celebrated and not shunned!

A bit of a flake but its all a part of me… and it feels good sharing with you!

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Interviews and Beyond: Franci Eugenia Hoffman

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We can learn a lot about a person from their past and their present, and if they will let us look beyond, we can find their hidden possibilities . This interview is about the way our imagination works. It is just a way of the storyteller, sharing another story. Each story is different, and yet they hold a treasure chest of  hope and possibilities !

I have asked Franci Eugenia Hoffman aka ‘Brew & Spew’ to embark on this challenge. This beautiful woman on your left looks like she is gazing deeply into your eyes, her thoughts hidden…at least for a short while! That smile says, “I see you” (hahaha)
For our readers, imagine we are having a cup of coffee, whatever your favorite brew, and your thoughts go somewhere else. That wonderland is where my thoughts went as I sat imagining conversations with some of my favorite bloggers. Today I am pleased to share the questions and answers from this amazing writer. Sit back and relax as we go beyond the past to somewhere…
 

The interview – Going beyond

D-wordslayer: “Bloggers write, because we are thinkers. Thinkers are innovators. Sharing is much more productive than keeping thoughts to themselves. It is a good and true saying, “I think therefore I am.”(anon) What happens between the present and the future, is like writing your name in sand. You can erase it anytime and make it bigger or smaller. Thus here are five questions about something that can be possible. You are my frame, share with me the picture in your own words for the future.”( Eversley,2016)
How do you feel about time travel… do you think it will happen while you are here on this earth, if so would you try it?
 
Franci: Undoubtedly a fascinating subject, Donna-Luisa. Do I think it will happen while I am on earth? Well, I’m a little “out there” with my thoughts, but could it be it’s already happened? Have you ever had the feeling of déjà vu? It’s an eerie feeling to walk into a room and feel you have been there before. And how do you know you haven’t been there in another time?
 
Oh, and here is some food for thought. Have you heard of the “grandparents paradox”, where you could go back in time and prevent your grandparents from meeting and stop your own birth? I did some research on time travel and I don’t want to dive into the scientific ins and outs, but this is beyond intriguing from my point of view.

Would I try it? Good question and I’m not sure I would. I’m conservative in some ways and not too keen on messing around with Mother Nature. Whether going back or going forward in time, I would rather have a crystal ball to peer into, than experience the real thing
 
D-wordslayer: Do you have a dream, about something you would like to do in the future involving another country?
 
Franci: Donna-Luisa, I have had a dream about living in England for years. I traveled to London a couple of times, back in the late ‘80s, and fell in love with it. The reason for one of the trips to London was the tribunalization of our insurance agency by Lloyds of London. In order to be delegated authority by Lloyds, it’s a requirement for the Underwriters to meet the agency owners in person. Then the interested Underwriters will sign off a percentage of their participation in transfer of risk.
Putting the business portion of the trip aside, I loved London with so much to see and do. I was also able to take in some of the countryside, which is beautiful. My dream would be to live in London and be a well-known columnist. For me that would be the crème de le crème. By the way, I am connected to several WordPress fellow bloggers from England and sometimes live my dream in the words of their posts.
 
D-wordslayer: If you could give something to this world, to keep it around – what would it be?
 
Franci: This question, Donna-Luisa, is one I believe we all should ponder. Rather than people feel the world owes them something, they should be more concerned about others. I could go on and on with my POV but it’s no different than what’s been said before. 
When I am at a loss for words or feel a topic has been beat to death, I sometimes resort to my favorite author to relay my messages. With that said, I could select several quotes from Maya Angelou that pertain to the world and its current state of affairs but I will narrow it down into my “gives” to the world.
I would give the world love, peace and common sense.

And to quote Maya Angelou:
Love: “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”-Maya Angelou
Peace: “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style”-Maya Angelou
Common sense: “Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”-Maya Angelou
And my favorite quote by Maya: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”-Maya Angelou


D-wordslayer: If you were elected president of your country what would be a policy or practice you would put forward?
 
Franci: If I were elected president – Wow!  Donna-Luisa, you have the knack for asking dynamite questions. Very stimulating, I might add.
I would limit the terms served by the House and the Senate.
“Members of the House of Representatives serve two-year terms and are considered for reelection every even year. Senators however, serve six-year terms and elections to the Senate are staggered over even years so that only about 1/3 of the Senate is up for reelection during any election.” See credits below.
I believe some of those that serve in the House and the Senate view their position as a career, and are more concerned about re-election and funding their campaigns. I don’t want to judge the majority by a few yet it seems the focus is more on their popularity and themselves rather than policy. To serve in the House of Representatives or the U.S. Senate is a temporary assignment and not a career.
Yes, there are pros and cons on this subject, and there should be otherwise there would be no decisions to be made. I always welcome opinions from others. 
 
 
D-wordslayer: When you dream big dreams, what are you doing in them?
 
Franci: Funny you ask because my dreams are just that; they’re funny, whacky and usually make no sense. I dream in technicolor and have forever. The colors are very vivid and bright, similar to colors of spring flowers. Now to add a little confusion, I also dream in seasonal colors, but not always in the season at hand. Hey! You asked so bear with me.
 
In most of my dreams, I am driving a car. The car is usually similar to one I owned in the past. There are always other people in the car, some I know or have known; very rarely an unknown person. The setting for the dream is during nighttime and the moon is large, round and multi-colored against a sapphire sky.

We are always in a hurry to get somewhere, but I don’t know where. In the dream, I never reach a destination but we are always safe. This is a reoccurring dream! I guess I am trying to keep those that I know safe because sometimes we are driving through high water.
Perhaps, we should keep this dream just between us bees, know what I mean.:)

 

D-wordslayer: I see your dreams and they look so beautiful. Deep and strong, and filled with excitement, and adventure, drama and hope! From time travel to the senate all in technicolor, its amazing how your thoughts can manifest into incredible possibilities if it were to happen. Maybe, there is a movie or book yet to be written about you ‘Madame Senator Hoffman’…that even sounds great! Hollywood here we come! 
Franci: Donna-Luisa, it was so good to hear your voice when we spoke the other day. You are such a warm person and I adore your accent. I am surprised we made it through our conversation without interference since there is such bad reception in our building.

And don’t you just love the beBee community? I find it truly like none other. So many professional, knowledgeable, kind and sincere people.
Before beBee, I cruised LinkedIn and became increasingly bored, especially when it started to change. I didn’t use Twitter much until I started my WordPress blog. I also have Pinterest, Tumblr and BingBing but my activity is insignificant. I am not a fan of Facebook, however, my husband likes it. He uses it to play games and chat with his family so I prefer to let him have it all to himself.

I can’t express how thrilled I am to be a beBee bee.
 

Well, it’s time to put a wrap on this chat and I have one last quote from Maya Angelou.

“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”- Maya Angelou
 
Donna-Luisa, thank you for taking the time to interview me and thank you for your continued support on BrewNSpew.  See you on beBee!
D-wordslayer: It sure has been fun and quite interesting reading this exchange of thoughts Franci. It was a pleasure hearing her voice for the first time, and yes folks, she sounds like a movie star , the real deal! We are so much more than what we show on the outside. Dreams can be real when we give them the life of an imaginary thought! To live without dreaming would be to live a life without possibilities and challenges, hope and feeling. To feel something for this life on earth is only the beginning. Franci gave us a small look into her ‘beyond’, and I challenge you to think about your own beyond.
Thank you Franci Eugenia Hoffman, for sharing and giving us these images which capture your thoughts. I’m seeing you in my frame and you look awesome!
***This first interview I hope took you beyond, to see your dreams, as you seek to imagine possibilities!

“beBee friendly, and share your views, share with a friend, as our words should never end!”
 
 
Check out ‘Brew and Spew’ and see what Franci has hiding – I found this today, so when you click its a surprise. Oh and here is another which may tickle the bee in you!
 
Credits:
 
Dwordslayer!
Artwork: Artistree -andrew.innocent@hotmail.com 
 
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A Multi-Religious Society Trinidad &Tobago

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Culture & Religion

Trinidad & Tobago is considered a multi-cultural and multi-religious state.  I grew up with the understanding that we are not all the same but we are the same, and need to respect each other. As a child, I went to school with children of different races, religions and social status. We were all different shades of color, and different textures of hair. We all wore the same uniform, and combed our hair with two white ribbons ( a girl school). As children we played together and most importantly celebrated and learnt about each other’s religions.

There was a religious instruction class which shared on Christianity (Roman Catholicism), Islam, Hinduism, the three major religions in our society. There were other religions, like the Pentecostal / Evangelical, Orisha Baptists, Baha’i, which we were informed about based on the children in the class. The best thing about religious practices, as a child were the holidays. We were given a day off for each official holiday, and we would be given treats while stories about their practices were demonstrated. Thus I grew up with religious tolerance and respect, finding it quite normal for my friends to be different in their beliefs.

IMG_20160705_115222In Trinidad & Tobago Eid UL Fitr  is considered a major religious holiday. Each year, the sighting of the full moon for Ramadan is observed and the date for Eid declared. There are over eighty mosques in Trinidad and Tobago. This holiday is considered one of the commercial busy periods for Islamic/Eastern garments, household items and food. Banks, Schools, government and commercial businesses all participate in some form of symbolic recognition, via signs, food, employees attired in Islamic traditional wear, and sales promotions. It really can be considered a financial integration of religious culture to the benefit of the economy!

IMG_20160705_114415I stopped along a main road in the Chaguanas area, and paused to look at the gaily colored garments for sale. Then, as I looked at a store front, my view was obstructed by the burglar bars at the front of the display. It looked beautiful, and sad, because of the barriers. These barriers caused my thoughts to go to Baghdad, Turkey and the entire Middle East. My vision became obscured because I recalled a time in my history class when there were less wars and less barriers.

Interestingly my children went to both Christian and Muslim Schools, and have relationships with friends of many religions. My eldest son was also a Head-boy at his Muslim college and he is a Christian. Likewise one of his friends was Head-boy at the Catholic College he attended and he is a Muslim.There are times they will debate and discuss world events and yet there are no arguments.Wedding, funerals, we have experienced them all because there is no barrier to brotherly love!

IMG_20160705_114504My neighbors, those who are Muslim, on July 6th will go to their mosques and pray, and feed the poor, then return home and share with everyone a meal. In the Middle East, and Turkey and many places in the world, celebrations will be difficult.There holy period of peace a time of war.

This society is not perfect. We too have radical extremists of Islam and other religions, but for now they are in the minority. Our children are more aware of what is happening worldwide, and will copy what they see if we stop teaching them to respect each other. Our culture is one which shares and integrates festivities.

We do have racial discrimination creeping in at times but that is not allowed to grow, rather it is discouraged. As a people our culture dictates our behavior and our various religions are ALL treated with respect.

Islamic wearI looked at the picture again, and I see the barriers blocking the beauty of the garments and the people. Then I remember, these are mannequins, they are for display purposes only, yet they are treasured. What about life, yours and mine. I think of Muslim and Christian; Syrian and Iranian; African and European; people with differences, with no barriers to protect their lives when they are attacked by extremist militants.

Baghdad, over 200 people killed at the close of Ramadan at the hands of suicide bombers. Once again there is death and destruction. My heart hurts for the innocent lives lost and those grieving, trying to find a way to ease the pain of loss!

My thoughts return to those happy days when I was unaware that hatred existed for everything. When I held hands and sang with my friends with many differences. We shared, we loved and we dreamed to grow up to be big.

Trinidad & Tobago is a multicultural place, a multi-religious society.

Eid Mubarak !

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DWordslayer 

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