Let’s Talk… A Love That Lasts

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The courage to carry

“To have a love that lasts forever, is to truly understand vows and commitment” (Eversley,2016)

In all of my forty six years of life I have waited for the commitment of true love. To really believe that there are people in this world who can cherish and care for another romantically has become a faded dream. A dream which has been archived into the fantasy part of my mental library.

The love stories of long marriages which are not abusive or filled with indiscretions seem ancient. The new lifestyle sets a pathway to divorces which have become their own academy awards on film. Acceptance of prenuptial agreements and exit clauses are now necessary when thinking of love – whether in a celebrity career or leading a nondescript livelihood.

To this end I did weep when I read from a friend and learned of his devotion, marriage and love for his wife. Let’s be real, and understand this is a true ongoing story of endurance, commitment, passion for each other, respect for family, and above all, the truest meaning of ‘for better or worse, till death us do part’.

The search…

It is easy to find someone to say ‘I do’ and it’s a lot easier to get to, ‘I did not sign up for this’ in the world today. So I have gone to the other end of the earth and now know (by divine intervention I’m convinced) a couple who found the meaning of vows and commitment with adversity. Their strength and likely lowest points of frustration have forced me to face the truth – there can be real romantic love in this world. The ability to live in this powerful place rests solely on the ones who can mean ‘I do.’

The questions…

Is a love like this possible now? Yes I believe it is.

Marriage is much more than two people saying ‘I Love You’ to each other, with all the decorations, pump and ceremony, and an ‘I Do’ at the end. It takes a capacity to see beyond the niceties of passionate all-consuming emotions, to the truth. The truth can be an unpredictable life, with curve-balls and adversities unknown.

What is “For better or worse”?  Can you see worse when you look into the eyes of your partner as you exchange vows and hearts? Can you see an accident suddenly happening and physical intimacy no longer possible? Can you see a deadly illness taking over, filling the space of time with more pain than joy? Can you see infidelity, ridicule and shame? Can you see barrenness, an inability to procreate?

What is worse – what will cause you to break those vows to seek physical satisfaction – hurting your beloved?

The decision…

I’m talking about a life of love. A life filled with passion, children, illness, adversity and happiness. This love is about a man and woman, exchanging vows, and feelings which are beyond the surface. I’m talking about the courage to endure and to take that commitment and say – “Yes, I do”. I know a couple with a love like this. A love which defies the odds, and defines courage, commitment and a capacity to endure – for love.

There is that love. It is possible to find people with the capacity to love like that.

This is what we should celebrate as love – every single day if we are people who have the capacity to endure and honor our love.

Take it up more than a notch. Have the courage and capacity to make that commitment, and honor each other. Have enough love, to be kind, committed and live in truth. Vows are not made to be broken on a whim and fancy.

Finally, have the capacity to find the courage to make your love last.

Dedicated to M&SC.. a love which lasts.

Happy Valentine’s Day to all.

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10 thoughts on “Let’s Talk… A Love That Lasts

  1. Research shows ‘love’ to be a hormonal state that ebbs in 2-3 years. What really survives beyond that point is care and understanding. Our romantic notions about commitment and everlasting love do drive that behavior. Idealism does help, whether the ideal state exists or not.

    We see it more in a man-woman in marriage light, due to the long time spent in intimacy, which does not exist in other relationships. But a similar care and understanding does exist in non-romantic relationships, too.

    It is great to see how your faith in love, and zest for life goes on undeterred, despite a few traumatic moments that you might have faced. Thanks for sharing, since you become an inspiration to others.

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  2. “There is that love. It is possible to find people with the capacity to love like that.” And even when it seems impossible that the one person meant for you exists, it is utterly worth the effort to keep on looking for them!

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  3. Shubhanshu you are so correct..I like the beauty of your words “Being with someone is more challenging because as you stay you know you love…”
    I hope you and your beautiful wife had a wonderful valentine..:-) You always have great words and wisdom to add!

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  4. shubhanshu

    Its really beautiful Donna. Life is really beautiful, we only need to realize and live more beautifully. Finding love is important and finding live that lasts can be by choice or not.

    Life is filled with all like Love, Happiness, Sorrow, Challenges and so on. We need to find out a reason to smile and take it forward.

    Being with someone is more challenging because as you stay you know you love and if you keep it in positive mode, you kept it going with lots of love.

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  5. Michael

    Capturing the essence of the truth in your mind is certainly one thing , but then to be able to communicate that to others in a manner that is befitting, is a whole new ball game!! D4 U have indeed excelled – The bar has been lifted high, & like ethics & morality, it must remain so.

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